Leaving Los Angeles, Part 1

The death of Kevin DuBrow yesterday had suddenly awakened my memories of Cali. I have been away from what I call my true home for about seven years now. And as much as I hate to admit it, I really miss the time I was there. Fifteen years. Fifteen years of In-N-Out Burgers, bohemian coffee houses, Venice beach bonfires, pink-haired neighbors, playing music and good friends. Those were fun times. Oh yeah, and the 24-hour taco stands. They’re the best!

Not that I don’t like where I am now. I love the peace and quiet that this town offers. It’s just different. I guess it was just time for a change.

But today, I miss L.A. I was reminiscing about the fun things I used to do there. Like performing at open mic nights in Santa Monica. Twice a week. For years! And playing countless gigs with several bands. Rock bands. Reggae bands. Jazz bands. Funk bands. You name it. It was a lifestyle and I’m lucky to have lived that part of my dream.

On the radio this morning, I heard an old Eagles song. I immediately thought of the acoustic group I used to be a part of in the mid 90’s. I can still hear us playing Love Will Keep Us Alive. The beautiful vocal blends on the chorus and the fantastic arpeggios on the guitars. The name of our band, though, was such a schlok. I mean… Acoustic Harmony? Come on! Just because we were playing acoustic guitars and singing harmony vocals doesn’t mean we should call ourselves just that!

Acoustic HarmonyAnyhow, here’s a little picture of us playing at a club in Hollywood. Can you tell which one is me? Clue… I play the 12-string Yamaha. It’s been at least ten years and my hair has long been cut short.

Speaking of being cut short, there were two other activities in particular that I was involved in back then. Very special activities. These, I wish could have lasted a bit longer than they actually did. Thoughts of the events have stayed with me all these years. It’s all flooding back to me just now. It’s overwhelming. They’re real heartbreakers and I think I would need to take a little breather before I’m able to start expounding on them.

You can wait, can’t you?

5 thoughts on “Leaving Los Angeles, Part 1

  1. I decided to read part 1 first before commenting on part 2.

    On Acoustic Harmony – there are worse names. 😀

    Your life in LA sounded very exciting. I wonder why you had to leave since you did call it your true home. (I’m just wondering — you don’t have to tell me.) And because I can’t really see your long-haired look from the picture because of the shadows, I’m imagining long hair on your ‘me’ picture. 😀 Did your cutting it coincide with your leaving Los Angeles?

    Yes, I don’t have to tell you. But I want to. 🙂

    It was definitely exciting. I didn’t want to leave. It was out of necessity that I left. In fact, I can still remember the tears on my face as I drove away. I had lost my job and the job market in my field ran out of opportunities. Coincidentally, one of my best friends (and ex-bandmate) who moved to Atlanta years ago called me out of the blue and offered to help me settle down in the east coast. Of course, not without having to read the fine print! Right? 🙂 He actually just wanted us to form a band together. To record music and hopefully tour again. Just like the old times. He said he didn’t want to do it without me. It was flattering but I knew I just wanted a job so I accepted. 🙂 And so, make music we did. Then form a band we did. Eventually, get married, I did too. 🙂

    Even though I had fun down there, I never felt at home. I don’t know why. And my marriage was also very difficult from the beginning. I’m still healing after all these years. 😦

    Anyhow, on a lighter note… no, I cut my hair in Nov. ’04 (I’ve had it long for twelve years), the week before I moved to Wyoming. Maybe I should’ve kept it since it’s freezing out here right now! 🙂 But it is beautiful.

  2. I understand your friend. Any group of people can form a band but to find the perfect fit takes a lot of trial and error. I had bands before but I just haven’t found the right people to stick with.

    I’m sorry to hear about your marriage. She’s very beautiful and reminds me of Julianne Moore.

    Thanks for sharing, Chris. 🙂

    Can you tell that I’m transparent? That I’m not afraid to speak my mind and heart? Whether it’s good or bad news? Whether it’s serious or mushy? To a person I barely even know?

    Now, if your spouse is the exact opposite of that and always runs and hides, it becomes difficult to share a life together in many ways. That’s why our relationship came crashing.

    BTW, you’re the uhmpteenth person to tell me she looks like JM. I mentioned that to her once and she retorted… yes, but she’s got money and I don’t.

    An atmoshpere of negativity can sometimes bring you down. 😦

  3. I’m really sorry. 😦 I have some thoughts on the matter but I know I’ve no right to say them since I’ve never been married and know that, no matter how deep a relationship is, the union of marriage goes much deeper, and is much more complicated.

    Thanks, Lizzie. I always listen to other people’s thoughts, whoever they are. Sometimes, more than I listen to my own, in fact. I’m not one to say “What do you know?” just because I’ve gone through more.

    If you don’t mind, I’d love to hear yours anyway. You can reply to the email instead or use the contact box, if you prefer.

  4. Hi, Chris. I wrote you back using that ‘contact’ box. I don’t know if you got it because it doesn’t have any record saying it was sent. I don’t have that box, you see, so I don’t know how it works. I hope you got it. Thanks. 🙂

    Lizzie… The contact box redirects to my email. I got your note right away and have already responded to it, actually. It should be waiting for you in you inbox. 🙂 Write soon. 🙂

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